tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-78182022024-03-06T21:48:35.301-08:00Infidelia: Une Princesse GuerriereAn attempt to avoid the maudlin. To think of absurdity and beauty as symbiotic. To be naked.
I am endlessly fascinated with my own story.Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.comBlogger271125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-54448842355399797722019-11-27T12:46:00.006-08:002023-06-16T14:18:22.090-07:00Wish You Were Here<p style="text-align: left;"></p><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="background-color: #073763;"><span style="color: white; font-size: large;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".SFUIDisplay";">Coming home on the night ferry from Victoria I saw so many things.<br /></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".SFUIDisplay";">I was bundled and standing at the bow, the stars were legion, the big dipper closer than I’ve ever seen it. In the dark of Active Pass the ferry illuminated the islands, giving the forests a gently supernatural glow in the moonless night, and glinting off the whitecaps lurching from its wake. As we came out of the pass there was an arc of cloud formation crossing the sky, Tsawwassen twinkling beneath it on the horizon. The arc seemed to hang over the city, but as we got closer the perspective shifted and I realized the arc was low and close, out over the ocean, forming a sort of gateway we would pass under. The clouds looked like a parade of woodland creatures, each running at full speed, and at that moment in their strides where none of their feet were touching the ground. Fox, hare, stoat, vole, possum, badger... and all the little ferries criss crossing the water underneath, tiny jewel cities set adrift on the night sea. <br /></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".SFUIDisplay";">All this celestial and corporeal phenomena, the stars, the clouds, the boats, the trees, the twinkle, the glow, I could witness it all at once, my face in the wind, wide open with awe and joy.</span></span></span></div><p></p><div class="p2" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; font-family: ".SF UI Display"; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25.1px;"><span style="background-color: #0b5394; color: white;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".SFUIDisplay"; font-size: large;"></span></span></div><p></p><p></p>
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Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-80983529404593807712019-09-29T12:05:00.008-07:002023-06-16T14:18:58.377-07:00Swimming Versus Falling<div class="p1" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; font-family: ".SF UI Display"; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">
<span class="s1" style="background-color: #073763; color: white; font-family: ".sfuidisplay"; font-size: large;">The fever scratches at my door</span></div>
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<span class="s1" style="background-color: #073763; color: white; font-family: ".sfuidisplay"; font-size: large;">I yell from the kitchen that now is not a good time</span></div>
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<span class="s1" style="background-color: #073763; color: white; font-family: ".sfuidisplay"; font-size: large;">The scratching pauses</span></div>
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<span class="s1" style="background-color: #073763; color: white; font-family: ".sfuidisplay"; font-size: large;">In the silence I sink back into myself, like wading into a cool swimming hole, the leaves of the surrounding trees fluttering like nervous birds, but my naked body is calm and neither in the future or the past, just here in the lapping water</span></div>
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<span class="s1" style="background-color: #073763; color: white; font-family: ".sfuidisplay"; font-size: large;">The fever scratches again, more insistently, and my body is pulled from the water, a tumult of words churn the treetops and the leaves are no longer anxious birds, but angry dogs, hungry ones, and the barking along with the scratching</span></div>
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<span class="s1" style="background-color: #073763; color: white; font-family: ".sfuidisplay"; font-size: large;">I yell again IT IS NOT A GOOD TIME and there is no pause and the scratching has become banging and the door breaks down and I can feel the fever heat spread towards me across the floor and up my body and I am burning and shaking and I can not discern one noise from another from words or meaning </span></div>
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<span class="s1" style="background-color: #073763; color: white; font-family: ".sfuidisplay"; font-size: large;">All there is now is please please stop make it stop </span></div>
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<span class="s1" style="background-color: #073763; color: white; font-family: ".sfuidisplay"; font-size: large;">I promise to stop wanting what I want</span></div>
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<span class="s1" style="background-color: #073763; color: white; font-family: ".sfuidisplay"; font-size: large;">I promise to let go</span></div>
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<span class="s1" style="background-color: #073763; color: white; font-family: ".sfuidisplay"; font-size: large;">Please let me breathe</span></div>
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<span class="s1" style="background-color: #073763; color: white; font-family: ".sfuidisplay"; font-size: large;">Please give me silence and return my nervous birds to me </span></div>
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Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-31561188474744008512019-07-18T20:11:00.001-07:002019-07-18T20:13:42.926-07:00The Present BreathBiking home from beach and very satisfying ocean swim, at magic hour, I stopped near my house, on a rise where you can still see sky and all the way to the mountains, and where there is a little park, with whorls of long grasses. That light, just the moment after the last bit of the sun has sunk behind the horizon, and everything glows, and your vision starts to play tricks on you. That light embraced the whorls of grasses, and the particular gold of them, dry and almost in sheafs, hints of green in the tenacity of other plantings - that deep gold, those traces of green, colours that take the path that goes from my eyeballs to my heart, and further, into my soul and everything that made me who I am. The peace, solace, the little wind that rises to rustle the grass, the description of ages on top of ages carried on that breeze. The giddy, lustful time right before all becomes sere, and fuel for fire. I could live in that moment, the sweetness of the smell, the warm wind on my bare arms, all time before and forever stilled and captured on this in-breath.Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-88285108708887192602019-06-13T11:42:00.000-07:002019-06-13T14:24:19.417-07:00Reasons I Find It Hard To Wake UpYou should see the Chinatown I dreamed last night.<br />
Rooftop dumpling and
noodle cafe, looking over a courtyard bustling with humans and leafy
shade trees, surrounded by crumbling brick buildings, held together by
ancient layers of multicoloured, peeling paint in graphic shapes. Windows filmy with time and steam, tall windows framed by brick arches
and packed with hanging plants, drummers practicing inside. At street
level grocery stores with avocados and yams as big as your head and tea
counters full of all the artists, talking, crying, laughing, their
exquisite shoes in various states of disrepair, and having to ask them
to move to get to the precarious stacks of giant produce, everyone
laughing boisterously when a pile rolled onto the creaky old wood floor. Friends’ apartments in odd shapes at the peaks of buildings, with
window seats and skinny steep stairs down from sitting rooms to kitchens
to bedrooms. Soft pinks and lacy curtains. And kissing old friends met
on cobblestone, music in their eyes and mouths, as we laughed about how
hard it was to come down from trips to Calgary. I wondered in my dream
how I hadn’t known this Chinatown existed, after all my years of living
here, and how I could live in one of those falling down places, draped
in silk, home with my tribe.Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-914091110183915282016-05-24T19:16:00.001-07:002016-05-24T19:16:39.543-07:00What I Would Have Said To You If You Had Ever Been Born<div>I <span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">saw a man and a baby, the man was jogging, pushing the baby in a stroller. The man looked like it hurt so much, to be jogging. I thought, that man is going to drop dead of a heart attack on the seawall, leaving that baby alone. Then a few minutes later the man did drop dead, and I saw him fall, and I was there. I called 911 and took that baby out of the stroller and held her on my knee while I talked to the 911 operator. Someone asked to the general crowd where the baby from the stroller was and I said I have her, and everyone could see she was happy there. </span></div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><br></span></div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">"It's going to be okay, little baby," I said, "don't worry, don't worry." We both looked at the mountains a while. Then I sighed, and said, "No, it's never going to be okay." That baby listened. She held eye contact and furrowed her brow and pursed her lips. </span></div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><br></span></div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">"It will be with you all through your life, informing your choices and identity. You will search a long time, baby, for that missing piece of your heart. But this is your story, and it will make you interesting, and complex, and you will have to decide how to be all those things, use them. Let it happen, baby."</span></div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><br></span></div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">Then the fire department came and then the police, and finally an ambulance. Not very reassuring if you're waiting to be saved, but that man wasn't waiting, he was dead. There was activity and questions and then someone took that baby out of my arms and she started wailing. Some time her mother arrived, too, and started wailing, too, and they nearly harmonized. I noticed the resonance specifically. </span></div>Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-83429479572921670312015-12-10T00:57:00.000-08:002015-12-12T00:58:28.718-08:00The InevitableI am nearly ready to get the laundry from the dryer. Right after I bang on the wall a bit, to let the neighbours know the thumping bass is penetrating even the concrete between us. I bang on the gyp rock wall, not the concrete one, though, so as not to break my hand, and so there's a possibility of being heard.<br />
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I believe myself to be the crazy lady. Do you know what I mean? I talk to myself a lot in my home, and often wonder if anyone just stops in front of my apartment door and listens to me. I speak in voices, do scenes with myself, angrily rant about what's broken in the apartment, how cold and stupid it is, complain to myself about the dumbassness of people, cry sometimes, very occasionally wail, and, once, such protracted screaming that I was surprised no one came to check on me or called the police. Every once in a while in life, the only thing that works is a good, long, loud scream.<br />
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Are the gods wrathful or kind? Within me or without? It is hard to tell because even when things don't go my way I can never be sure if it is because of the gods, or in spite of the gods, or if it is the exact thing I need at that exact moment, and the gods know, so I ought to just accept it. "Enlightenment is cooperation with the inevitable." This is my favourite thing I have heard lately, and I'm really, really sorry, but I can't remember the man's name who wrote it in a book. If you look it up on the internet, using a search engine of your choosing, the whole sentence, you'll find the writer lickety split. I know, I've looked it up before, but forget now. "But, Riel", you may well be gearing up to ask, "you're using the internet right as you're writing this entry, so why wouldn't you just Goo(my hand pops out and clamps over your mouth, to stop you from using that damn word as a word and to use other words to convey your meaning so you do)I mean, why wouldn't you just look it up using a search engine of your choice right now right while you're already most of the way there?" Good question. Sigh. One sec. <i> </i><br />
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<i> </i>Just hum a little while you wait, to pass the time. Hmmm, hmm, dum de dum, la la la, mmmm, hhhmmm,<br />
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<i>Anthony de Mello </i>is the fellow who wrote the quote in a book.<br />
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I came on here to talk about depression, and this is what happened instead. Ain't life a funny old bear?<br />
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xoRHInfideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-45702422197183936822015-03-04T21:07:00.001-08:002015-03-04T23:02:26.005-08:00Royal Oak Burial Park<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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a strangely beautiful afternoon with my dad at the Royal Oak Burial
Park in Victoria <span style="font-family: inherit;">this past Sunday</span>. We went to look at the green burial part of the
cemetery, because he's started thinking about where to be interred. Or
whether to be cremated. Or what. It was an easier and more beautiful
conversation and walk than you might imagine. I personally think he's
going to be around for quite a long while yet, but I'm glad he's not
scared, and is willing to talk about what he wants. Our cycle is what it
is, no matter how hard people try to stop aging and cheat death, and
his making peace with the process is an inspiring thing. Probably this
cemetery won't be his end game, too much highway noise plus a
realization that maybe being cremated and having a little of himself
scattered in all his favourite places in the world would be better.
What's funny is how he is not afraid of dying, but he is worried about
spending eternity in Victoria. I hear ya, dad.</span></span></span></span></h1>
<br />Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-88789193073391644982014-02-12T11:28:00.000-08:002014-02-12T13:51:16.154-08:00I Dream In Not So Subtle Analogies I woke so many times and each time felt fatigue flood my body, forcing me back to sleep, going back to the same dream, until it had concluded, like I was in an alternate reality that would not let me go until my task was completed. I slept so late.<br />
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I dreamed fascism came to us. It started in the schools, where else? I saw it coming and tried to escape slowly and quietly, but was thwarted at every turn by doors that were locked, guards that appeared suddenly, first jovial and in costumes, under the guise of keeping the students safe. A festival was named, there was food and a circus atmosphere, so that most did not feel the yoke tightening. The more I tried to run the harder it was to move my feet, and the more I felt myself whispering instead of yelling. Those whispers, though, they found their way to the ears of those who also recognized the signs. We spoke falsehoods out loud to each other as a diversion, while writing the truth in notes. We made borscht, giant pots of it, and from under the sound of the rhythmic chopping of the beets and onions - we chopped yams and carrots and sweet potatoes, too, but only as a distraction, they were never intended for our soup, just a pile of colours to dazzle scrutinizing eyes - from the rhythm of the chopping was born a plan. More joined us, and we continued to make individual and easily detectable escape attempts, to be thrown back over and over. But quietly we built strength, and with coded messages and well timed precision, one night we ran en masse and I was thrown far over the wall by the hands of many who sacrificed themselves for the cause, so I could run and run and spread the word, to free us from the isolation of silence.<br />
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Before this I also dreamed a talking horse would not let me out of buying it, for the steep price of seven apples. So who am I that my dreams are to be trusted?Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-74663727199807759612013-12-29T01:28:00.004-08:002014-01-01T02:13:22.767-08:00Me and the AtheistA few weeks ago I found myself trying to describe to an atheist what I feel about God. The atheist is a very, very smart man. An exceedingly talented writer, director and performer. He is also an absoluteist, in my estimation. He is fun to talk to, but sometimes can get so loud and smart and certain that I begin to feel like he's not really in it for the exchange but for the delivering. The conversation went to many places, including my feeling that atheists can be zealots on the same level as evangelical religious types. Atheists don't like it when I say that I feel atheism has become its own religion, that you can not merely point to the absence of A god, and the lie of THE god and sit back and say, "See, I've cured the human need for spiritual fufillment". I'm not here to tell you about that part of the conversation, though I'll expound on it if asked. The end of our discussion was when the atheist pointed to the dictionary definition of God when I suggested that I had formed my own meaning, my own relationship. He said because of the dictionary, (the atheist bible!!), (I am gonna get myself yelled at, I can tell), there is no room for discussion about the meaning of God. I have been thinking about this for weeks, I felt unfinished with him, and wanted to think more clearly about what I meant. Then tonight I wrote the entry before this, about love and hunger and sadness, and then had to write him an email, because I felt I had clarified something for myself. I have excerpted the email here, because I want to keep talking about this and finding my own way. It is as follows:<br />
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"I have been thinking constantly since you and I spoke at the party,
since I attempted to describe to you what I feel in my heart and soul is
my connection to God, and what it means to me. I wanted to say to you
that I have been bothered by your assertion that the dictionary
definition of God means that I can not develop my own idea of what God
is, my own feelings, because once the definition is set, there is no
longer room for growth. I can not accept this, as I can not accept that
there is no room for evolution and interpretation when it comes to
language and the poetics of the soul. I do not subscribe to the Bible
as truth, nor do I feel that the organizations of specific religions are
doing the world anything but harm, unless you are a fat rich white man,
then organized religion is totally your
friend! I do, however, feel a strong connection to the divine, to a
powerful force that is created by the collective energies of humans and
nature. It is, on a very large scale, much like the entity that is
created when two humans fall in love. The nurturing of that tender and
fragile relationship allows a third thing to be born, something alive
because of the two people loving each other, but also separate from
those two people, and available for them to draw strength from, but also
able to turn dark when not properly negotiated and tended to. I
hesitate to suggest symbiosis, because that isn't quite it, but
certainly the love can not exist without the humans, and the humans can
not rise up without the love. <br />
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I feel there are so many more
words for love that we have not even invented, because there are so many
kinds of love, and the same is true for God. We have defined it
narrowly, but it encompasses so much more than Oxford or Merriam-Webster
can describe. I will continue to use the word to find common ground
with other humans, to be a beginning of a life long conversation and
exploration. I do not think there is a single being that rules us all
and decides our fates and eternal dwelling place, but I think that all
humanity continually creates something together, a temperamental and
divine, humming consciousness that both gives and takes, can be
unpredictable though comforting, and which you can not always find, even
if you are looking, because it can also be petulant. Just like love.<br />
<br />
I
have not written this in a draft after draft fashion, I'm just thinking
and talking. I believe language to be malleable, and love and God to be
ever searching for their own place in the lexicon."<br />
<br />
That is what I wrote to him, but it just scratches the surface of what I mean, and leaves out the details of a lifetime of divine experiences and the reception of both destructive and inspiring energies from beyond myself. It is, perhaps, the continuing search that keeps me alive and breathing.<br />
<br />
Love,<br />
<br />
RielInfideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-21339573644633543602013-12-29T00:19:00.001-08:002014-01-01T02:14:36.753-08:00But you're in love!<span style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">As if it can save you. As if the fragility of romantic love can withstand the cloying pressure of being the only source of happiness, of health. Trust me, it can not bear that kind of weight. Romantic love wants tender ministrations, it needs seeing to, watching over, particular and detailed negotiations. It can not thrive in darkness, it can not sustain when it is only drawn on and never replenished. It will be bled dry, left sere and cracked beyond repair. It is so temperamental, unpredictable, a river which alternately floods its banks and is reduced to a trickle, if there at all. There is no resting state, no compromise. It can not save you for it is always asking to be saved. </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span>
<span style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">So, certainly, it has been wonderful to fall in love, it has even felt transformative along the way. But in the face of what I perceive to be irretrievable sadness in me, when all I desire is silence and stillness, the entity that we have created between us, that draws its own breath, it can not be asked to stop breathing, to put aside its own insatiable hungers and thirsts and look only outwards. It will always be greedy.
</span></span>Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-58681531519965370362013-09-12T13:25:00.003-07:002013-09-12T14:28:33.312-07:00Why I Left Facebook and How I Am Doing NowThe process of my quitting Facebook began, if you don't mind a bit of fucking dramatic license, the moment I signed up. I resisted Facebook for a while, kept hearing about it in 2007, dewy skinned pretty people kept telling me I just <i>had</i> to join. I was living a quiet little life, had taken a break from comedy and wasn't really in the mood to get, you know, CONNECTED. Then I guess I was, because I did it. I don't remember much about what that first experience was like, I remember being reluctant to post too many pictures, wondering about ownership and whatnot, and enjoying the way the status updates were formatted, that they always started with your name, encouraging, if not forcing, you to tell your stories in the present tense. "Riel is excited to announce she bought a pair of pants that seemingly fit." I don't know, I can't remember my status updates and I can't go back and research them because I never, ever want to sign in to Facebook again.<br />
<br />
Honestly, I'm peacefully hopeful that I am part of a domino chain, that the speed is increasing, and that Facebook will ebb off into the ether, destined or doomed to the realm of specialty or niche social networks, like Friendster or Myspace. I also know you're not all with me.<br />
<br />
I could have done the French goodbye, left the party by quietly slipping away, leaving my 1,500 connections to wonder what they'd done to deserve being unfriended and possibly blocked by me, none of them wanting to address the teeny tiny voice at the back of their brain, whispering the suggestion that I may actually have just up and gone. Deleted the whole shebang. I could have done it that way. I didn't, though. I announced it. I created a stir. I made regular status updates over a week or ten days letting people know they could still reach me via email, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, Soundcloud and my blog. Disconnecting, my ass.<br />
<br />
At first people scoffed, "YOU? You leave Facebook? Preposterous! You <i>love</i> Facebook! You'll never do it, you don't have the GUTS to do it!" I smiled to myself, knowing I did have the guts. My very first step, before announcing it, was to delete it off my iPhone. That step was a revelation, freeing up my mind and beginning the healing journey of expunging "like" out of my brain as my first reaction to any joyful, interesting or engaging experience. The comment threads on my status updates were steady, repeating choruses of "Why?" Why, you asked, and I told you.<br />
<br />
My relationship to Facebook was not healthy. I spent too much time there and, because of the oft repeated message in the entertainment industry that you must promote yourself via social media, that there is no career for you if you don't maintain a presence, a page, where everyone can like you...because of that message all the time I spent there gave me a false sense of productivity. I could spend hours going down the rabbit hole of reading articles and commenting on statuses and writing the story of my day, and chatting on messenger. It felt like I was <i>doing</i> something <i>important</i> for myself, that somehow this would all lead to success. Really, though, all I'd done was avoid my real work, writing, for another hour, two hours, three hours...<br />
<br />
Success. Reason number two I left was the anxiety, depression. It was increasingly apparent to me that everyone I was connected to was having a more adventurous, prosperous, joyful, fulfilling life than I was. And I felt like a big liar knowing that due to my desire to keep any whining to myself, what I presented to Facebook made everyone else feel the same things about me.<br />
<br />
I also felt like I was losing a sense of proportion about how much time and energy I was supposed to be devoting to friendship, and with whom. I have spent the last couple of years examining my behaviour within personal relationships and cleaning up my act. I wanted to learn how to be honest and calm, thoughtful and receptive to the humans I most wanted to keep close. It took practice and there were some mistakes made, some embarrassments had, some painful separations, and some extremely surprising revelations. The result is a smaller group of people who are close me, who I feel myself with, both because I show them my true self and because I let them love me. I have also found a romantic love that surpasses all the hopes and expectations I ever had of such an experience. As I made these changes and fostered these relationships, Facebook seemed to drift farther and farther from my value system, became a glaring example to me of the person I did not want to be.<br />
<br />
When the private messages started trickling in, along with the phone numbers and email addresses came feelings. Many people applauded me for my courage (?!) and berated themselves for not having the strength (their word!) to do the same. I was a little surprised by the language around the topic being so filled with guilt and shame, so like addict language, of the apologies for being weak, but I remembered using all that same language around my relationship to Facebook. I was more surprised by the <i>angry</i> responses. I was called selfish, chastised for my lack of professionalism and dedication to my work as an entertainer, accused of abandoning people and their ability to keep in touch with everyone they like but don't have time for because they have children and jobs. How dare I!<br />
<br />
Well, I dared. At the decided time on the decided date my finger hovered over the keypad and I bit my lip and then I did it. I felt nervous and exhilarated, and proud. I did it! I was free! As I'm sure you would suspect, my immediate instinct was to proudly announce it on Facebook! I resisted. And then Facebook told me I would have 14 days to really <i>really</i> decide, it would keep my account warm for me, the home fires burning, should I want to be embraced back into the fold, the family. I made that my private date with deletion. I kept away for the two weeks, never peeking, never checking to see if it was still there, never succumbing to the jones I was having for praise. In those 14 days Facebook mysteriously reinstalled itself four times on my iPhone, taunting me. I stayed true to myself, though, and found myself coincidentally, or not, flossing more, going to bed earlier, biking to the pool to swim a kilometer each day and reading more books.<br />
<br />
My boyfriend says I spend way more time on Instagram and Twitter now that I don't have Facebook, but we're just getting to know each other, too, and he isn't entirely aware of what life was like before he came around. I think Facebook took up the space where he is now, the space where my nightly talk show at the Fringe is now, the space where I am writing for a living now. I left the virtual love behind to make room for all the tangible love I can get my hands on, and I am delighted to report I feel solid in my footing. Attached to the planet and connected to humanity in a more visceral, exciting and consistent way than I have in five years. I know less about 1,500 people than I did a month ago, but get to put my hands on their shoulders and look them in the eye and say thank you for your time and affection after I've run into them on the street and they've filled me in on the goings on. It's nice to look people right in the eye when they're telling you their news.<br />
<br />
It's a new era in some ways, and a return to something older, too. Something human.<br />
<br />
Feel free to share this blog post, you know, on Facebook. <br />
<br />
Love,<br />
<br />
Riel<br />
<br />Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-9678188227433366172013-08-22T12:07:00.002-07:002013-08-22T12:07:29.441-07:00Dispatch from Marin CountyJust overheard the quintessential Northern California Lady conversation
at the health food market. The phrase "I hear you, and for me..." was
used multiple times by both parties, as were "personal growth bootcamp"
and "I now see my needs as blessings". I just ate my beets and
blueberries and felt glad to be loved.Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-83375144082908021202013-07-18T13:58:00.000-07:002013-07-18T14:00:44.516-07:00The WaspI am watching a wasp try to escape through a glass window. It must be so frustrating for him, banging his head against the glass that way. The intensity of his buzzing ever increasing as he takes harder and harder runs at it. At first, because I loathe wasps, I am inclined to think, "What a dumb fucking wasp", and snicker derisively to myself. I think of him in the same category as a fat, slow fly, who will not fly out the nearby open door no matter how you try to shoo him in the right direction. I try to make a Vine video of the wasp, because I think he's funny, which I think I will title "Dumb Wasp", which is why I watch him instead of killing him, my usual first instinct with wasps. There is a nest close by, which we have located and plan to dispose of with harsh chemicals in the dead of night.<br />
<br />
As I watch this wasp through the lens of my iPhone, on the tiny screen, over and over again erasing and reshooting the six second video trying to make it <i>perfect</i>, I become intrigued with his system of searching for a way out. He is not like a fly at all, just hitting at the same spot over and over and over until he drops from exhaustion onto the windowsill, his wings listlessly and desperately buzzing with less and less frequency until he finally expires, with so much time to wonder where it was he'd gone wrong. I stop trying to film the wasp and just watch him.<br />
<br />
I have time to watch him, as I am holed up at my mother's, contemplating my future and wondering about the paths I have chosen, and which ones to choose next, and going in circles in my mind, day and night. I have all the time in the world, until I die. <br />
<br />
The window he is trying to bust through is made up of nine square panes of glass, each about 10 x 10 inches. He starts in the middle pane of the top row. He crawls every which way he can on this pane, then buzzes intently and bashes against the glass. At first it seems he is going to go around and around it forever, and at one point really makes a run at it, backing way up from the window and throwing his little body, dare I say shoulder, furiously against the resistant pane. He must feel so close, be so frustrated to be able to see outside, right in front of him, and not be able to get there. I start to feel like I am in for a long day of watching this guy. <br />
<br />
After a few minutes of crawling diagonally, then all the way around the perimeter, then more diagonals, then lots of buzzing and crashing, he pauses for a moment and his front legs gently stroke his antennae, like a cat pausing to clean itself, like he is thinking. Then he surprises me and crawls over the wood frame to the next pane. He does not take so long to explore that pane, does a bit of buzzing, once round the perimeter, not even the whole way, and crawls back over the frame to the original pane. More pausing and antennae stroking. He walks over the frame again, to another pane, and does an even shorter explore. Another pause, stroke, think, I can almost see his little brow furrowing. Then, very quickly and with clear intent, he briefly investigates each other pane, quickly and obviously coming to the conclusion that they are all the same as the much explored first pane. He makes a decisive move away from the window, forcing me to duck, and while I worry that he is going to fly up my skirt and make the necessary adjustments, he, no pun intended, beelines past me and right out the wide open door, and suddenly the sunroom is silent, buzz free.<br />
<br />
Just now a fly has come in and is frantically thrashing about from
window to window, all over the room, mad and making wild, irrational
guesses, ignoring my attempts to urge him towards freedom. Stupid fly.<br />
<br />
Now I am thinking about sneaking up to the wasp's home in the middle of the night and ruthlessly killing he and all his brethren, seeing his application of logic and inference, his easy acceptance of the evidence. That fly and his slow, regretful death on the sill, am I him? I would rather be the wasp. I am holding his story up to my own and wondering when I will see that this window is not my way out, and that maybe I ought to just turn around and use the door.<br />
<br />
<br />Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-34822300173854887572013-02-01T10:30:00.001-08:002013-02-01T10:33:51.282-08:00Another One (a poem)<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">
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I dreamed you were a blond coyote</div>
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I held you and we cried because your blue eyes were so clear</div>
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And your smile was genuine<br />
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman";">N</span>ot Cheshire or gritted show biz
face</div>
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You were so blond, standing, leaning on that porch</div>
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Cool as the day you were born into your thirty names</div>
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Our Geronimo</div>
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In the morning after waking to a tear stained pillow </div>
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And your face in everything</div>
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I had a run in with a coyote</div>
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Not a blond, but still</div>
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Blue blue eyes and ragged</div>
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Not too long ago soft and beautiful, hope soaked and playful</div>
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Pacing, confused, back and forth in front of the little
church</div>
Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-26770182932411140912012-11-17T11:42:00.001-08:002012-11-17T11:42:21.189-08:00Things That Don't Belong on Twitter or FacebookI have the tenderest heart and I can't figure out how to protect it from always being broken by people who claim to love me but actually misunderstand me or want me to be something different than I am. I just get to feeling like myself is good when I get knocked back again by being told I'm too aggressive, or too honest, or too sensitive, or too....everything. Where on the planet do I go to not be received as just too much? Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-49547037371705456552012-11-02T12:19:00.002-07:002012-11-02T12:22:52.667-07:00postmortem (a poem)<div class="MsoNormal">
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<br />
<br />
when I am dead
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wash my body</div>
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run your hands slowly over the parts</div>
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recognize and discover</div>
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tenderly clean my pallid, stony skin</div>
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then smooth oils scented with geranium into my skin</div>
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and my hair</div>
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spread fresh rose petals across my body</div>
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and wrap me in linen</div>
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carry my body, wrapped this way</div>
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carry my body through the streets</div>
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let the parade form behind me</div>
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let them sing and cry out loud</div>
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let everyone know I am dead</div>
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call them into the streets </div>
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dance beside them and all around me</div>
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let ribbons fly and drums be beaten</div>
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when I am dead set the dogs to howling</div>
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and open the bird cages</div>
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let time stop when I am dead<br />
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</div>
Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-66649764170635397842012-10-13T12:32:00.001-07:002012-10-13T12:32:41.553-07:00Tiny Ways (a poem)
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<u>Tiny Ways</u> </div>
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The threat of a long arc of forgiveness</div>
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raises questions for me</div>
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<br /></div>
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Mainly, is the steadfastness of your love </div>
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tethered to the consistency of your morning ritual?</div>
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<br /></div>
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If your eggs are runny,</div>
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will I pay in a thousand tiny ways, long into the future?</div>
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A thousand tiny ways</div>
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one would be silence </div>
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another would be noise</div>
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a third would be distance</div>
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maybe chatter would be on the list</div>
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and absence</div>
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persistent drunkenness</div>
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wandering eye</div>
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revealing arsonist tendencies</div>
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subterfuge</div>
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sending postcards when traveling for work, but only writing
famous, vaguely applicable quotes on them instead of your true sentiment</div>
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teabags in the sink</div>
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water on the bathroom floor</div>
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dirty dishes beside the bed</div>
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interfering with my crossword puzzles</div>
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getting a cat without telling me</div>
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letting the garden die</div>
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never fixing the broken stair</div>
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not reading my work</div>
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keeping the good wine for yourself</div>
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your leaving taking me by surprise</div>
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Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-17971424560165807542012-07-15T23:05:00.000-07:002012-07-15T23:05:06.452-07:00Letter to a friend who lost a friendDear G_____,<br />
<br />
A couple of years back one of my closest friends died. A touchstone, a
measuring stick, a bawdy, brave, beautiful man, a craftsman, a wanderer,
a gentleman, an intellectual, a collector, a dandy, a hobo, a
trickster, a voice of reason and a bottomless well of unconditional love
for me. He died suddenly.<br /> <br /> A few years before that my dad
died. Well, my stepdad, but, you know, my dad. It was awful and
eviscerating. He was sick for three years.<br /> <br /> When my dad died,
even though we'd had so long to get things up to date, he died with lots
of anger and much unresolved between us. <br /> <br /> When my friend died we were up to date, we knew how much we loved each other, and had no stone left unturned.<br /> <br />
My mom and I had an interesting conversation not two days ago, about
dream visits from our dead friends and family, and how lovely and how
hard they can be. We were talking of the kind of dreams where they come
back and tell you they'd never died, but hadn't told anyone, and we
wondered whether we'd be mad or happy or what if they came back. I
realized if my friend came wandering into the room, I'd be so blissed
out that he was back, I wouldn't care if he'd died or not died, I'd just
be grateful. But if my dad came back, I'd be furious. Where had he
gone, why hadn't he told us, etc...etc... <br /> <br /> I am not clear on
the exact root of the different feelings, but I know this. My friend is
deeply embedded in a beautiful place in my heart, and when I need him, I
can hear him. He is with me all the time, and sometimes I have felt
his physical presence so strongly, mostly in the form of a hand on the
small of my back, encouraging me forward. <br /> <br /> I am so so sorry
for your loss, G_____. These friends that we count on, that we carve
out space for in our lives, when they leave us before we are prepared it
is a devastating blow, and leaves a hole the size and shape of them
that can never be filled. But we also store their love in us, and I am
surprised and delighted to report that he feels as alive and present to
me now as he did when I could touch him. I miss him terribly, and still
really crave holding his rough hands in mine and trading dirty jokes
with him, but I am constantly amazed at how much of him lives in me. <br /> <br />
I hope you get to have a dream visit from your friend, and I hope you
find some solace in the piece of him that lives in you, and that can't
be dulled by time or experience, because he's part of who you are now.<br />
<br />
Love,<br />
<br />
RielInfideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-4171805495265913912012-06-12T12:58:00.002-07:002012-06-12T12:58:49.759-07:00Oh, Country That I LoveDear Canada. <br /> <br /> I love you. So much that today I am in a funk
over your imminent descent into a dark place, thanks to the Harper
government. I still believe, Canada, that you have all the potential in
the cosmos to be an innovator, a leader on the world stage. Your
youth, your open space and rich stores of fertile land and raw
materials, your well educated population, all of this positions you <span class="text_exposed_show">so
well to be great - to gather the world behind your skirts and show them
the way forward into a future we have only imagined. Instead, though,
you are being dragged under a rock. Held hostage by fear and greed. <br /> <br />
Do not despair, Canada, even though my own visage may be clouded with
worry and stress, with the strain of concern for my entire nation. Do
not despair, my beloved country. Though we are about to be plunged into
an ideologically dark time, we can plan and plot and organize and never
stop making noise. Let us not let bill C-38 deflate and disarm us, but
let us use it to fuel our certainty, focus our energy, and bind us
together as one force, one voice, one engine of change and forward
momentum. We have been set back, but let it only be the curtain that is
pulled back, revealing to us all the blights, that we may begin to cure
the ills, and build a country that reflects us, impresses us,
represents us. <br /> <br /> Love,<br /> <br /> Riel</span>Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-9329839869455968932012-03-01T16:35:00.000-08:002012-03-01T16:49:20.332-08:00Assignment #22 - Adriana Bucz - First KissThis is true, as I remember it.<br />
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Jake was a blue eyed red headed boy of five. The kiss was in the barn. We must have
met before that day, but I don’t remember meeting him, I just remember the
kiss.</div>
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We were a vagabond gang of children, wild haired and sly
eyed, brothers and sisters for life, not bonded of blood, but of experience.
Gypsies. Hippies. Theatre people. Parents young, and caught up in their
own fantasies of running away with the circus. We were, from as young as 2 or three, left entirely to our
own devices. You know how in the
Peanuts comic strip, you never see the parents, and on the cartoon they just
sound like a wah wah pedal when they speak….that’s what it was like for
us. Send us up the quarter mile
long dirt driveway to the schoolbus in the morning and hope for the best. Often times Jake and I would take an
alarm clock and our bagged lunches and head off into the woods for the day
intsead of getting on the country school bus that would take us to
Armstrong. Just time it right so
we’d be back when the bus was, and no one was the wiser. </div>
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But that was later, and on a different farm. Jake started as the sweetest gift to
the world. Blue eyes that stared
you down, even at that tender age, and plotted. With a devil in his smile, and a little lilt in his
troublemaking giggle, Jake was always looking for the best way to tease
you. He would, by the time were seven
or so, already be displaying a prodigious talent for playing the guitar. At age
five I fell in love with him. And
it stayed that way until we were seventeen, when he was struck down by a mental
illness, one that would rip him from his friends and family, and from me.</div>
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At five we are playing boys chase the girls, or girls chase
the boys, in the barn, outside a town called Tappen, in the Shuswap region
of BC. On all the farms we stayed at, the hay barn always became
our place. We’d sleep there at
night, and dare each other to do dangerous things. Walk the beams, or close your eyes and walk on the stacks of
hay bales, guaranteeing falling between two bales and lacerating your legs on
the sharp straw. We made forts and
nests and brought bedding and supplies, holing up for days, cajoling and ridiculing,
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Boys chase the girls.
Jake catches me. We sit on
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I love him for years and years, always assuming he loves all
other girls better than me. I make up songs about it and sing them to myself in
the woods, in the fields. This tortures me through our childhoods and into our
teenaged years. I am sensitive to
him, and shy around him, because I think he only wants to be around girls who
are pretty. Until a time we are
both at the Caravan Farm for a
party. There is a campfire, and
music on the gazebo, and so many people.
And all these girls I don’t know, who look like dancers, and are tall
and pretty. And they are flocking to
Jake. This exquisitely handsome
young man, grinning all the time.
I leave him alone because I think he would want to be with them. I sit at the campfire by myself, in a teenaged slouch. And then, Jake comes over, sits next to
me, puts his arm around me, wonders where I’ve been all night. Right here. I ask him how come he’s not dancing with the pretty girls,
he says he has only wanted to be with me all night. He loves me best, and that’s that. I feel suddenly and simultaneously connected to the earth
and untethered from it, rising into the night sky with the sparks from the
fire. We talk into the night, make
plans for futures, dreams, ideas of our lives to come. Wonder how it can include each
other. My heart is flooded with
understanding. It is not about the
outside, and I don’t know how he sees me, but it’s not the way I see myself,
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It is not long after this night I get a call. We are 17 now. Jake, the caller tells me, something
has happened to Jake. He and one
of our brothers spent three days doing acid and now he’s lost his mind. They found him wandering down the
highway, naked, and his tongue lolling out of his mouth, swollen from him
chewing on it incessantly. They’ve
brought him home, Home. Where they feed him whiskey and dope,
living in the woods. Not to the
hospital. They are not taking him
to the doctor. I want him to go to
the doctor, I don’t think it’s right, but I’m far away in Vancouver, and not
really part of the scene where he’s from.
Dope growers tucked into the mountains, living on the sly, avoiding the
establishment, suspicious of western medicine. I call him. We
have the strangest conversation.
He’s calm now, but not thinking straight. He’s on his front porch and he’s looking out at a view I
know, can imagine. Looking down
from the hill, over the lake, the blue of the summer sky matching Jake’s
eyes. He is worried, he tells me,
because there are a few clouds in the sky, and one is littler than the
others. And this little one is lower
down in the sky, and he looks so small and lonely, Jake is becoming overwrought
that there is nothing he can do for this baby cloud, who he thinks must be in
mortal anguish at having been left behind. His voice is thin and far away. He doesn’t laugh, there is nothing of the trickster in
him. I want to go to him, but I
don’t know what to do. I think he
must get better. Of course he will
get better. This boy wonder. This musician. This heart of my heart. </div>
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But he doesn’t get better. The reports filter in to me at UVic. He has become violent and aggressive
towards his friends and family. He
is out of control. But they still
won’t take him to the doctor. He
is becoming more isolated as less of our extended family want anything to do
with him out of fear for their own safety. Then, the bomb drops.
I get a call, Jake has been arrested. He has taken a little girl, 2 and half years old, out to the
woods, where he has molested and assaulted her. He is incarcerated in the hospital for the criminally
insane. Our friends, our brothers,
and I gather. We don’t know what
to do. One of us goes to visit
him, but I don’t. I can’t. I don’t know how to be with him, I am
afraid to see him. I talk to him,
but he doesn’t sound like the friend I had, the love I knew. He sounds dead. I begin to mourn him as if he were
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receive letters from him. The
letters are intense, insane, but with an undercurrent of love that rips my
heart out. He talks of me as being
the love of his life, he asks me to come for conjugal visits. I am so scared and upset, I cry and I
don’t write him back. Maybe once I
do. I avoid the subject of
visiting him, and really avoid the subject of visiting him conjugally. After he has been in there for a couple
of years, when I hear some reports of his progress, I agree to see him. He gets a day pass and comes into
Vancouver and we have dinner together.
I am shocked when I see him, he is so puffy and bloated. He lines up the various meds he is
taking on the table for me to see.
Lithium, and I don’t remember what else, but an array of colours, shapes
and sizes. The lithium gives him
tremors. The other meds have made
him fat and his speech is muddy.
Slurry. The onset of mental
illness at seventeen has left him age arrested. I am in my twenties now, and he still talks like we are
sixteen. I find it disconcerting
and don’t really know how to talk to him, am afraid of him. He takes my hands at dinner, and
expresses to me again how he has always loved me. I wonder is he playing guitar in the hospital. No, he can’t. The tremors in his hands from the meds make it too
hard. And he doesn’t really
remember how. His bright red hair
has dulled, and he has grown a beard.
This magical boy, the most magical boy, has been erased. There is so little left of him, I
realize that my mourning him has not been unwarranted. He is not coming back to us, our
Jake. But this is Jake, too, and I
struggle with what the obligation is to someone you have loved for so
long. I send him home after the
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I am so angry at everyone for letting this happen. I go through a long period of time
where I believe that if the family, his mother, had just taken him to a doctor,
then he would be okay. That little
girl would be okay. Her family
would be okay. We, our brothers
and me, would be okay. We wouldn’t
be trying to understand why the brightest of all bright lights was snuffed
out. I see the movie “The Butcher
Boy” with a friend. The movies is
about a blue eyed, red haired boy, a sparkling lovely little human, who goes
crazy and is driven to do violent things.
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Kamloops. He comes to the Caravan
for a party. He is still fat, and
his eyes are more grey than blue, but he seems steadier. He picks up a guitar and plays and I
cry some more. I have to leave for
a while and cry on the steps because I feel like his playing makes me want to
hope, but I know that the time for hope is so long past. This is our Jake now. But it is good to see him out in the
world. And he still writes me
letters sometimes. Now he lives on
his own in Kamloops. He has a job,
he plays soccer, a couple of years ago he sent me a photograph of himself
playing in uniform, and sounded so proud.
And he plays in a band.
He’s not who he was when we were beautiful, but he’s somewhere, and he’s
forward, and he has a life. He’s
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him, and how many forms that love has taken. And that I’m not afraid of him any more. </div>
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The two favourites that came out of this assignment:<br />
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They lived together, but died alone.</div>
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Love you madly,<br />
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RielInfideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-32565136753660914032012-01-27T02:32:00.000-08:002012-01-27T02:32:07.054-08:00Biography Of A FriendBiography Of A Friend (At His Request)<div>
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A tawny wanderer.</div>
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Base and basement.</div>
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Drone a perfect sigh, warm me over with a knee to the heart. </div>
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Come, draping eyes over me, </div>
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Oh, this is your light. See how it comes and goes? </div>
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the brains along, along </div>
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though willing </div>
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And into the river </div>
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Come and gone again</div>
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</div>Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-34552293226789542011-12-01T17:48:00.001-08:002011-12-01T17:49:18.907-08:00Upcoming Shows!<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 15px;">In addition to what's listed, I'm always trying to get spots last minute, so you could end up seeing me anywhere! Support Vancouver's live comedy scene, and come out!</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 15px; text-align: left;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 15px; text-align: left;" /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 15px; text-align: left;">Okay, finally have set an ACTUAL return date for Amuse Bouche. Friday, December 9th, 8pm, Slickity Jim's! YAY! </span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 15px; text-align: left;" /><span class="text_exposed_show" style="background-color: white; color: #333333; display: inline; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 15px; text-align: left;"><br />Sunday, December 4th, 10pm<br />Stand up set<br />Comedy Rehab @ The Forum Public House<br />1163 Granville Street<br /><br />Wednesday, December 7th, 8pm<br />Stand up set, song, guest in sketches<br />TITMOUSE! @ Kozmik Zoo, 53 West Broadway<br /><a href="https://www.facebook.com/events/208155009260316/" rel="nofollow" style="color: #3b5998; cursor: pointer; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/events/208155009260316/</a><br /><br />Friday, December 9th, 8pm<br />AMUSE BOUCHE @ Slickity Jim's Chat n' Chew<br />Hosting w/ Ian Boothby<br />Our guests - Ben Mills and Graham Clark! (Holy shit!)<br /><a href="https://www.facebook.com/events/290811574291354/" rel="nofollow" style="color: #3b5998; cursor: pointer; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/events/290811574291354/</a><br /><br />Thursday, December 15th, 8:30pm<br />Stand up set<br />Do Not Apologize Comedy @ Sorry Babushka<br />2095 Commercial Drive<br /><br />Fridays December 16th, 23rd, 30th...<br />AMUSE BOUCHE!!<br />8pm, Slickity Jim's.<br />Weekly lineups TBA!<br />Best little bit of backroom, mic free comedy in town!<br /><br />Monday, January 9th, 9pm<br />Stand up set<br />Blind Panther Comedy @ The Prophouse Cafe<br /><br />OH BOY!<br /><br />Love,<br /><br />Hahnsy</span>Infideliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14952734128054069233noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7818202.post-16226629588350245502011-10-15T20:47:00.000-07:002011-10-16T00:45:50.800-07:00It's A Beautiful Day For A Revolution<div style="text-align: center;">
I Occupied Vancouver today. Or is it Occupy Vancouvered? Here are some things that happened.<br />
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First we ate at the Re:Up BBQ Cart. Pulled pork and bacon with sauce and bacon...oooh...and some sweet tea to wash it down. After all, we couldn't protest poverty and hunger on empty stomachs.<br />
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They are smiling because I just told them that I will use the picture to prove to my out of town friends how handsome Vancouver cops are.
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Waiting for the iPhone 5.
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After I took this picture he let me cup his balls.</div>
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The soles of Darren's shoes are perfect. It's like he didn't protest at all!
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Main Street Occupies Vancouver</div>
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The wind got pretty cold, so we walked down to Gastown to occupy Re:Volver for a while and have a coffee, but it was very occupied already, so we occupied the St. Regis hotel bar for a pint and a warm, leathery booth. <br />
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My favourite sign I saw all day said, "You can still be rich, just not THAT rich". Which I think pretty much sums it up.</div>
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Good job, everyone!</div>
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